"My name is Nathalie, I am 20 and a new military wife. My husband is away on his first deployment in Iraq. While I was searching for college books online I decided to type in books for military wives. I purchased three that day, I read all but your book was the most personal. I cried throughout the whole book, just because it put all that I had been feeling in perspective.

I loved the honesty in your book, I felt like I was having a conversation with a girlfriend. Thank you so much for writing this book. It has helped me gather my thoughts that have been running through my mind since deployment, and just be at peace with myself. Your book is a blessing! I am recommending it to all the military wives I know. Thank you and God bless."

"Your mother couldn't have told you better! Honest, sage advice from someone who has truly been there, done that... from both sides of the separation. Should be required reading for military spouses. You'll find yourself saying, 'Whew, so this is normal!' at every page."

"Well-written and conceived, something of value not just to military couples but everyone in a relationship trying to balance family and career."

"Separated by Duty, United in Love is an essential handbook for military families. Shellie Vandevoorde demystifies the deployment process and passes on valuable advice from the 'trenches,' military families who have successfully endured and grown closer despite their separation."

"A must-read for everyone in or associated with the military! A well-organized, thought-provoking, insightful guide for the everyday 'living apart' that each member of the military is subject to. I enjoyed your book so much I could not put it down until finished."

"What I learned in twenty-five years with the Marine Corps, the hard way, is in this book. Separated by Duty, United in Love is a frank and truly practical manual of everything you need to know about keeping marriage, family and your sanity strong through military life. Valuable, time tested, and much-needed resource for new and not-so-new military couples."

"This is a clearly written, practical guide to coping with separation that should be required reading for military spouses."

"I wish I had your book during my eleven years of military experience. I think it would have saved me a lot of heartache. For those seeking more than the socials or meetings that the military offers to get throught emotional and trying times."

"I feel that if military wives had access to your book, it could provide them with real practical advice for handling deployments. Your book could easily be that desperately needed ounce of prevention that military wives need."

"I want to thank you SO SO much for writing this book, as a brand new military wife for the past two years, it has been at times very frustrating to cope with my husband's deployments, and to deal with the depression, and games right before and after the deployments were frustrating and at times, I had no one to lean on to understand me. I bumped into this book at the Grocery Store, and boy was I ever so glad to have found it! I feel like every page I read I felt more in common and more in hope in our marriage, that we are not the only couple that deals with all of the same issues every other military couple deals with. I just feel more better, that I finally can get help from someone who actually knows what she is talking about. I will gladly pass this book on to my other military spouse friends. Thank you so much! With great appreciation, Nataly"

"I am not sure how to contact you locally, so I thought I would do it through your web site. I thoroughly enjoyed reading your book. The insights you have and suggestions you offer hit home. I've been a part of the military family for sixteen years and the majority of them with a unit that requires "frequent flier miles" for my husband. Your book was a great reminder of what our marriage means given the good, the bad, and the downright ugly! I particularly appreciate your chapter entitled 'Decisions We Never Want to Make'. The checklist you provided is invaluable. I believe all military couples can benefit from what you have written. It should become a part of all Welcome Packets for military spouses."

"My name is Karen Bayard and I am a therapist working through the Army Family Member Assistance Center in the Marriage and Family Therapy Center at Schofield Barracks, Hawaii. We have a steady rotation of deployed soldiers here at Schofield Barracks 25th Infantry Light and with the Striker Brigade. I wanted to thank you for this wonderful book. When I picked your book up I could not put it down until I finished it. I am also a veteran and a spouse. My Service Member Husband is currently on his second deployment to Iraq. We have been doing this for 19 plus years now. Your book speaks so true to everything we experience as military couples and families. I have recently gotten several copies of your book and check them out to clients of mine. I often will check them out to spouses whose spouse is currently deployed and or to couples who are getting ready for deployment and sometimes to those who have returned. I also use your book as a resource in a Therapeutic based Deployment Support Group that I run weekly. I would like to know more about your next book and am also interested in information around a book signing. Most of all I just wanted to thank you for the way you put this book together and the ease at which it reads and speaks to the hearts of all of us that have this connection. I have recommended this book to many of my colleagues to help them better understand what we go through as well. Once again my deepest thanks."